negative memories

Walking in Newness of Life: Erases Negative Memories, Part I

~ Matters of the Heart ~


Memories: Give our soul the ability of retaining, remembering, and recalling past experiences.

So memories can be times of joy, excitement, fun, hope, and love…but they can also be negative memories of stress, anxiety, depression, sadness, hopelessness, and loss.

Transforming Negative Memories

We want to transform these negative memories into places of freedom and hope, releasing excitement and excellence. This can cause us to change our responses from the principals of negative thought patterns that have been built in our hearts and minds. We want to begin to instead walk in values. (I’ll explain this a little later.)

Romans 7:5-6 (TPT) “When we were merely living natural lives, the law, through defining sin, actually awakened sinful desires within us, which resulted in bearing the fruit of death. But now that we have been fully released from the power of the law, we are dead to what once controlled us. And our lives are no longer motivated by the obsolete way of following the written code, so that now we may serve God by living in the fruitfulness of a new life in the power of the Holy Spirit.”

Living in Negative Memories

Living in negative memories is like living in the law that once bound us and caused us to be controlled by the fruit of death. Our negative memories caused us to become aware of sin that brought death, and we lived it out in our behaviors and actions.

Ephesians 4:17-24 (TPT) “So with the wisdom given to me from the Lord I say: You should not live like the unbelievers around you who walk in their empty delusions (mistakes, false impressions). Their corrupt logic has been clouded because their hearts are so far from God—their blinded understanding and deep seated moral darkness keeps them from the true knowledge of God. Because of apathy, they surrender their lives to lewdness, impurity, and sexual obsession. But this is not the way of life that Christ has unfolded within you. If you have really experienced the Anointed One, and heard His truth, it will be seen in your life: for we know that the ultimate reality is embodied in Jesus! And He has taught you to let go of the lifestyle of the ancient man, the old self, which was corrupt by sinful and deceitful desires that spring from delusions (mistakes, false impressions). Now it’s time to be made new by every revelation that’s been given to you. And be transformed as you embrace Christ-within your new life and live in union with Him!”


For God has re-created you all over again in His perfect righteousness, and you now belong to Him in the realm of holiness. So discard every form of dishonesty and lying, that you will be known as one who always speaks the truth, for we all belong to one another. But don’t let passion of your emotions lead you to sin! Don’t let anger control you or be fuel for revenge, not for even a day. Don’t give the slanderous accuser, the Devil, an opportunity to manipulate you!

Did you catch a few things?

1) An unbeliever lives in empty delusions (or their mistakes, their false impressions).

2) Their logic or reasoning has been clouded because their hearts are so far from God. (Just like Adam and Eve, we turn from God because of shame and guilt.)

3) It keeps them from the true knowledge of God. (And they become uninterested, bored, and unconcerned.)

4) We are called to let go of the standard of living that the old man (our old self) once lived.

Living Under the Law

Growing up my parents were from a different generation, therefore as a child I saw my Dad as head and authority of our home, but from the perspective of that generation. I could see that my Mom did communicate to my Dad what was happening with us children, he was the one to discipline us. While that sounds right in some ways, in other ways it was not. Because as I grew older I realized my Mom didn’t really have a voice, or if she did it had been shut down from a young age and she just gave into silence and sadness.

This instilled in me that a man or husband should have more control, or had all authority, that I didn’t have the ability to make decisions and choices. What my Mom did was give her God-given voice and authority away. This was like living under the law. She never knew there was another way.

Another Way

Before Christ, women were considered almost nothing, although they were given the same authority and position as a man at the beginning of creation, the fall affected that. This is part of the sin nature, the negative memories that have been instilled in our life. But God redeemed those positions of authority through Christ’s crucifixion, death, and resurrection. Now we all have the same authority and position in Christ.

Finding My Voice

When I was 29 years old, I decided that I would not be controlled again by someone else’s desires or thoughts that didn’t have me, my good, or my purpose, in mind. I wasn’t going to lose my voice and give all my authority away. Some healing was found through a program, but only in some areas. I would make the choice to have a voice and a decision, but in many ways I still gave my voice and my authority to someone else who seemed more powerful or intimidating. Actually, I fell back to some of my training as a child, and again I thought it was right because of my upbringing. I fell into the negative memories that I grew up with.

Freedom in Christ

Romans 8 (TPT) tells us to live by the power of the Holy Spirit, it says “now the case is closed; there remains no accusing voice of condemnation against those who are joined in life-union with Jesus, the Anointed One.” “For the law of the Spirit of life flowing through the anointing of Jesus has liberated us from the law of sin and death.”

It’s through Christ, The Anointed One, that we have been given hope: a hope that no longer condemns us. We have been set free from sin and death. Freedom from stress, sadness, and disappointment can be found, by bringing hope where these negative memories and emotions once ruled. We begin to change the negative memories that affected our emotions, which created the behaviors we walked in. Healing begins in the patterns and responses we once lived in.

Hope frees us from perfection! We are released from anxiety and depression! Hope in Christ brings excellence and freedom through His life! The Anointing breaks the yoke: Christ in us, our hope of glory!

To Be Continued…

Next month I’ll finish with walking in the newness of life.